How to Start A Book Club; or Assembling Your Own Regiment

About a year ago, I had a “so crazy it just might work!” idea: I would start a book club.

I know, that sounds insane.  Bear with me.  Because being part of a book club is one of the most fun and most rewarding things I’ve done in the past year. Or ever.

Today, July 2, the Monstrous Regiment celebrates its first birthday! What started as a whim to read books by women authors has expanded to embrace all genres, all writing styles, all foods, and most recently, all of a book by a man (we admit that was controversial.) A year ago,  a group of people came together to read books and eat food and we haven’t looked back. If you want to start reading with awesome people, here are a couple suggestions.

1. Find Your Peeps

So–you want to start a book club. In the 21st century, how do you find awesome, like-minded people who also want to read books and talk about them? Facebook, of course. I started by creating a private Facebook group called “Hypothetical New Louisville Book Club” and invited everyone I knew in a two-hour radius who I thought might like to read. Those people then invited more people, and we started a discussion about what this “Hypothetical New Louisville Book Blub” might be. We discussed how often we should meet (monthly), where we should meet (local restaurants), what our name should be (we took a poll–The Feminine Mystiques and Women of Letters were also in the running) and how discussion captains would be chosen (at random unless there was a volunteer). It was immediately important that everyone who wanted to have a voice in what the book club would become–since then, any changes (can we meet on weekdays rather than only weekends?) have also been decided with energetic and empathetic discussion. One year later, The Monstrous Regiment continues to be made up of remarkable and good-humored people who just want to come together to talk about books.

2. Find Your Books

You’ve got your people–now what will you read?!?!? This is indubitably the hardest part of starting a book club. It was suggested at the outset that our group focus on books by female authors, and this was adopted instantaneously. We could just have easily decided to only read books by Kentucky authors or books by authors whose last names started with P or books without “The” in the title or books about mermaids. We could also have decided that each discussion leader picks whatever book they want to read, without a unifying theme. I suggested the “books by women” hook because I wanted to read more books by women, and I thought it would help narrow the focus of the zillions of books out there. Choosing a book for a group discussion is daunting, y’all. For our first read, I dithered for days, making lists and consulting oracles and booksellers alike, until a fellow Regimental gave me this advice: just pick a book you want to read. So, I picked The Little Paris Bookshop by Nina George because 1. Nina George was a woman and 2. I’d owned the book for six months. It was time to read it. Since then, The Regiment’s discussion captains have picked books they’ve read before, brand-new bestsellers,  or books they judged by title or author alone. The book itself is not the most important part–it’s the people you bring together to talk, and if you’re picking a book, you’ve probably already found your people. Sure, a really good book will likely have a really great discussion, but I’ve found that book people can talk about anything with vigor for long enough to finish a meal. Just pick a book that fits the mood of your group and tell everyone! It’ll be great.

3. Find Your Place

Setting out, I didn’t want The Monstrous Regiment to have a ton of requirements that might deter people from joining the fun. I wanted people to feel free to come to a discussion if they hadn’t finished the book (or even started the book) and I didn’t want people to be stressed out about leading a discussion. Choosing a book was stressful enough!  So, we started by holding our discussions in local restaurants, so people wouldn’t have to worry about cleaning their houses and making food. This turned out to be a boon because it expanded the scope of our group–we started picking restaurants that fit the style or theme of the book and that made it so much more fun. Our first meeting took place outside at a French cafe so we could eat yummy pastries while talking about a grumpy Frenchman who sells books from a barge. Since then, we’ve really gotten into matching our food to our books–so much so that we started a whole blog. This works for us, but maybe meeting in a library or a bookstore works for your group. Maybe meeting at the same house every time, or a local park is more your style. The atmosphere we wanted for our club was discussed in our Facebook group, as well as time of day. Having a chill book club that is welcoming above all things has continued to appeal to us as a group.We started out on the first Saturday of every month at lunch, but this has quickly devolved into “When can everyone meet this month? The third Wednesday at 7:30pm? Super, see you there!” It’s more important to us to have our fellow Regimentals with us than to stick to a very specific schedule. Facebook continues to be helpful with this, as we can set up polls and events to keep everyone on the same page.

4. Find Your Voice

Our discussion style is fast and loose–sometimes the discussion captain has questions or discussion topics they introduce at the beginning and sometimes the group just starts talking and we can’t shut up. For us, we’ve found that starting with one or two questions is usually a good icebreaker, and that having a few more ideas we want to talk about is helpful when we fall into a conversational lull. Each discussion captain decides how they want to format discussion and we look to them as our wise and trusted guides to bring us back to the book when we inevitably fall down an irrelevant rabbit hole. What works for some books also doesn’t work with others, so flexibility in discussion format is key to having a really engaging discussion. Absent members also sometimes send in their thoughts and feelings on our selection to be read aloud during our meetings. The discussion really does depend on the book–sometimes we discuss our book for two hours and sometimes twenty minutes. The important thing is that we all read a book and came together to talk about it. The friendship is the best part.

Remember Step #1? You did it. You started a book club. Congratulations! Now go have some fun.

To all of you who have been a part of The Monstrous Regiment (all 99 members of that Facebook group!), thank you. Let’s keep reading!

Reads and Restaurants

Reading is a predominately solitary activity, which works out very well for us introverted people. We have our usual spot where we feel comfortable and do the majority of our reading. Mine is laying down on my couch with my cat either curled up by my feet or laying on my chest if she really wants attention. Usually, music is playing, and a snack is close at hand (we are all about the Feeds here). On days that the weather is just too nice to be inside, nearby parks take over the ideal spot, either on a bench, on a blanket picnic-style, or straight up lying on the grass. However, what about those rainy days or when you just need to grab some food and don’t want to stop reading? This article will give a little insight into going to bars and restaurants with your best friend: a book.


Firstly, bringing a book to a bar may be a good way to strike up conversations with other people and find some new friends. You may see an article about using books to make friends in the near future here, but today we’re focused on the opposite: how to not be bothered while you concentrate on your Reads and Feeds, and beers. I have had many years of experience doing this, both around where I live and on some solo vacations. When you are in a random locals pub in Dublin at 9 PM on a Tuesday with a bunch of old Irishmen, and look distinctly touristy, it takes a bit of setup to read without interruption. Fair warning: it also doesn’t always work.


There are some items that you can bring with you along with the book to help set up that “leave me alone” look. The most important one is a pair of headphones, regardless if you are going to end up listening to something or not. A notebook, backup battery charger for

Supplies for a day of books, bars, and biking

your phone, and/or a laptop all give off that vibe that you are working on something rather than just pleasure reading and can help minimize interruptions. A second book gives the impression that you have to get through one and start on the other, so it can be helpful as well. Usually, I opt for the notebook option as it is easy and useful for short trips, and on a long day out the battery charger is a life saver.


Depending on what type of place you go to, it may feel a little odd to go there alone especially if you aren’t used to it. Bars are no problem–many people go to those by themselves. There, you just look for the most secluded part of the bar, usually at the far end from the door. Keep your headphones in the entire time, just take one of them out for the brief moment to order your food and drink. I take the dust cover off if it is a hardback book so that it isn’t obvious what the book is, and that makes people less likely to comment on it. Sit down restaurants that you have a table and server are more awkward at first, but you quickly become used to it. If you go before or after the dinner and lunch rushes then you can set up all over the table without bothering anyone else, and they won’t particularly care how long you stay. Fancier places will sometimes be a little confused if you ask for a table for one, and in those situations holding your book so it is sort of prominently displayed can help ease the confusion.


Why go through all this effort to be out in public, when you are just going to turtle up in your own mind anyways? Well, in the immortal words of Donna Meagle, sometimes you just have to Treat Yo’ Self. One of my favorite ways to do that is to try out new restaurants, and everything is better with a book.